THREE’S A CROWD

More than a blog…

I hope you did not find this page in search of mediocre 80’s sitcom fandom—you will likely be sorely disappointed if that’s the case.

Once Izzie was born, we started a care page to update friends and family on daily developments in the NICU and ways to direct prayer and support. Eventually, I started to journal and reflect on that platform about God and his goodness and his sovereignty—about life in general—updates on the family, challenges of parenting and caregiving, transitions in careers etc. After sustained feedback from my loyal base of #IzzieFans, I decided to take my idle thoughts and musings (prattle??) directly onto the World Wide Web.

This started out as a personal blog, where I would reflect on my life as a dad of three precious girls—sharing stories about the joys and sorrows of caregiving and balancing all of the rest of life’s demands. Basically, I just talked about what I was learning or reading or thinking about.

I will be posting a newsletter on the last Sunday of every month. I invite you along for the journey!

Lastly, I hope you will also take a moment to appreciate all of the layers of meaning to this blog title and logo. As you can see, three is a crowd when it comes to chromosomes (trisomy 18 included). Three is also a crowd when it comes to children. “Three’s a crowd” is an expression that alludes to a third person spoiling the privacy or intimacy of a pair of lovers (think “third wheel”)—or in our case, three smaller people have all significantly contributed to the challenge of privacy and intimacy in our home! Additionally, the logo shows three human forms of varying statures, representing my three daughters who are also varied in size, and these forms are in the same style as the chromosome 18 from this genetic diagram! #MindBlownEmoji.

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  • Christmas in…December?? (And Other Reflections on THREE Years of Caregiving (!!))

    Y’all. It finally happened. Christmas in JulyDecember! Today was the day that we finally had our Sleep Safe Bed delivered! (after months of back and forth with insurances, social workers, providers, medical supply applications, medical supply personnel, decisions—endless phone calls (ie, waiting on hold, listening through queue after queue of not-actually-helpful robot answering services)—endless rigmarole…

  • Waiting…

    It is one of those wet and dreary, grey autumn days. The kind of day that makes you want to curl up under a woolly knit blanket, sip on some Earl Grey tea, listen to Bon Iver, and attend to the rain and wind outside the window. Maybe it’s the changing of the season that…

  • Stillness

    So, when was the last time you sat and flipped through an entire Where’s Waldo? book—finding Waldo, Wenda, Woof, Wizard Whitebeard, and Odlaw on each page before continuing on through the book? (Ok, Fine, we didn’t always find Odlaw…that sneaky little mustachioed devil…). I am guessing for most of you, it has been at least…

  • By ‘n’ By [Hard Times Comes A-Knocking At The Door]

    Well Folks, we are back in the Bluegrass! It is sorta strange being back somewhere so familiar after being away for 8 years. A whole lot has changed and a whole lot has stayed exactly the same! Eliana was coloring a picture recently and made the entire background blue with a horizontal “horizon” line across…

  • The War Within

    [full disclosure, I started this post over a week ago, so I hope you can track with me despite my publishing delay!] Wow. Since I last checked in with you all, the entire month of December 2023 has come and gone. Highlights: Lowlights: I think you could make a case that this was the hardest…

  • Bone Scans and Dad Hacks

    Well, in the month since my last post: Izzie spent a week in the children’s hospital fighting an upper respiratory virus, Katie traveled to a conference in Kentucky for several days, we celebrated Izzie’s 2nd birthday (!!), we hosted some family over the week of Thanksgiving (my highlight was watching the new Ninja Turtles movie…

  • What Caregiving Feels Like…

    Have you ever run a marathon? I hope your answer is a forceful: NOPE! Or just a good ole fashioned thumbs-down would also be an appropriate response. (Need I remind runners everywhere that the first guy to ever run a marathon died immediately afterward?!) Marathons are famously 26.2 miles. While I technically have never run…

  • Introduction

    Let me open this introduction by clarifying a few points and setting your expectations at an appropriately low level. If you have made it this far into my blog, it is quite possible that you do not know who I am (except for you—Hi, Mom!). You could be reading these words from anywhere on the…